You’re Stupid, Pathetic, a Sissy, a Loser! – The Art of Conversational Combat Jujitsu

(WARNING: Reader Discretion is Advised. Strong Inappropriate Offensive Languages in this Article. Read at your own Risk.)

Ok, so you’re out having a good time, meeting lots of girls, having fun, your energy is pumped, your state is so high, you never feel more alive…and then all of a sudden some jerk comes up to you and calls you “stupid”, “loser”, “pathetic”, etc.

Your heart skips a beat, your body begins to boil up, you ear tingles “Oh no, he did not just call me that!” Your first response is that you are ready to knock this guy out KO. … or either you’re trying to think of a witty quick comeback to attack him back, and so just remain there in silence until it is too late.

If you’ve ever seen a fight on a night out, it would usually go something like this:

One person would say “Screw you!”. The other person would then say “Screw you motherscrewer, I’m gonna screw you up!” right back, and the other person would say “Screw you!” again. This endless “Screw-You Altercation” gets really childish and pathetic and even humorous after time.

It’s like “Screw you!” is the only clever thing they can think of up to attack the other person back with. That is the only thing they can say. Very non-intellectual, verbal combat Jujitsu, indeed if you ask me.

I’ve been getting questions regarding how to handle insults and abusive verbal attacks that can happen whenever you go out because this game can be brutal when it comes to trying to get the same girl other guys have same interest in, but have no fear, I’ll give you some lethal tactics to handle these situations.

I’ll be honest with you…I was bullied a lot when I was younger, and I thought about this for a long time and developed ways to counterattack this into simple social structures to be used over and over again.

What I’m about to show you really work and are extremely effective against these types of people who messed with you, but I caution you not to use them for evil.

Therefore, I’d like to devote today’s lesson exclusively to “the Art of Conversational-Combat Jujitsu” training.

Put on your Jujitsu-uniform and prepare to get an instant black belt today!
I’m going to share with you some powerful social structures to be used in regards to conversational Jujitsu when somebody does verbally attack you.

Most people would tell you to just simply ignore it, like it is no big deal, and that is what they told you back in grade school, and that is fine; however, that doesn’t actually stop the attacker from continuing attacking at a later point.

You can ignore them, but I challenge you to social experiment, besides, would you rather feel a little more satisfied if you could have fun with it and stretch your creative muscle?
If anything else, go with the flow, and never get defensive and succumb to their frame.

The frame you want to come from is, “How can I make the attacker look pathetic because of his action?”

When you are out there, there will be people who will mess with you, and you have to know and be prepared to defend yourself that reverts their own attack back on them to make them be the idiots of their own aggression.

A mirror attack, like in Aikido, the form of martial arts where you redirect your opponent’s energy attack right back on them. Reverse and reflect the damage back on them so you’re not the overaggressive, testosterone-fueled perpetrator.

Why?

Ever notice how in a fight, whoever is the one (Person A) getting beaten up by the other (Person B) is always seen as the victim and your natural instinct is to just step in to help that Person A who is getting beaten up by Person B, even though it probably never occurred to you that Person A could be the one who harmed Person B first, but it’s just that Person B is better at physical confrontations, and Person A is playing the “victim’s card” to draw outside sympathy to crush Person B.

I know it’s an unfair fight.

This happens a lot especially with girls.

A guy punches a girl, and then hell breaks loose for that guy as all the other guys jump in and will knock the shit out of that guy who punched that girl, even though she could have done something to him first.

She’s playing the victim’s card.

That’s why we want to divert the damage caused by the other person back on them to make them the fool that they set out to cause you to be; and you’re not playing the victim’s card either.

The key is to focus on them and what they are doing says about them, NOT on what they’re actually say.

Example:
“What’s with the messy hair? You need to get a haircut.”

“Somebody seems jealous.”

To be frank, I don’t like doing this because I rather befriend the guy and possibly add him to my social circle, but there is a certain time when you have to let diplomacy go out the door.

So here are the things you can do. Remember always accompany these with a smile.

Some of my simple default blunt answers would be “Cool”, “I know”, “That’s awesome”.
And now the social structures you can use over and over again to guide your responses are:

– The Question Counterattack

Counterattack with a Question. Respond everything they say with a question.

Example:
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Are you impressed? Are you looking to become one as well? Are you asking for advice on to be a stupid idiot too? What’s with the attitude, did your girlfriend break up with you?

– The Expert Counterattack

This technically makes them seem like a big-know-it-all pedant.

The formula for this social structure is you would start off with, “Yeah, and you would know because…” and whatever they attacked you with, use it right back on them.

Example:
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Yeah, and you would know because you’re the expert on stupidity.
You: Yeah, and you would know because you’re the BIGGEST idiot in the room.

Attacker: You’re a pussy!
You: Yeah, and you would know because you have the largest pussy hole of them all.

– The Sarcasm Counterattack

Agree and Exaggerate to the Ridiculous Extreme in sarcastic approach tone.

This is the one you can have the most fun with because you are simply just going with the flow and agreeing with the other person but exaggerating so much to the extreme that it becomes hard to take anything the interaction goes less than a joke.

Example:
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Absolutely my good man! I’m the biggest stupid idiot of them that I cry about it all the time and have to see a therapist 3 time a day, everyday, every year, that I’m broke, homeless, nobody loves me, everybody hates me and never talks to me except for you. You’re my new best friend of good ole buddy ole pal.

– The Clueless Counterattack

Silent, Don’t Register, Stale-Face, Eye-blinking…Hmmm?

This one requires the least amount of effort to execute. For those of you who like to stay non-reactive, this will probably be your favorite one but with a little added spice.

You’re just giving them a continuous blunt “Hmmm?”, with a stale-face blinking your eyes like what that person said didn’t register. It has to be somewhat apparent that they know you understand what they are saying but just not bulging, like you’re toying with them.

Doing this over and over again, and constantly making them repeat themselves to hopefully agitate them, they would usually quit, if not use the other counterattacks.

Example:
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Hmmm? (stale-face, eyes blinking)
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Hmmm? (stale-face, eyes blinking)
Attacker: I said you’re a stupid screwing idiot! (getting more agitated)
You: Hmmm? (stale-face, eyes blinking)
Attacker: Are you deaf?
You: Hmmm? (stale-face, eyes blinking)

– The Assumptive Counterattack
Make up an absurd assumption about the attacker that makes them look like idiot of what they are saying or to your favor.

Example:
Attacker: You’re a stupid idiot!
You: Oh so you must work with retards then.

Now isn’t learning these social structures to these counterattacks so much better than memorizing 50 thousands clever witty comeback lines that you would probably forget?

But Gabriel, what if somebody do say “Screw you!”?

Hot Girl: Screw you!
Me: You wish. (Assumptive Counterattack)

Asshole: Screw you!
Me: Sorry, not into dudes. (Assumptive Counterattack)

(Also notice here, how I redirect what the girl said to make it seem like she wants to have sex with me, but that will be a lessen for another time.)

Always focus on the other person, on the “you”, not on “I”. This way you shine the spotlight back on themselves and they will be forced to justify and defend themselves, then you’ve gotten them right where you want them to be.

Finally, here is an example of a full interaction with all these counterattacks applied, that happened to me one night when I was out talking to a girl when this attacker came up to me:

Attacker: Ewww…

Me: Awww, poor baby boo needs his mommy to clean up his “ewww” mess? (Question Counterattack that makes him look pathetic)

Attacker: What’s with the shirt?

Me: Hmmm? (Clueless Counterattack)

Attacker: I said what’s with the stupid shirt!

Me: You like it. Wanna have it? (Question Counterattack) It will look so much better on you. (Assumptive Counterattack)

Attacker: I ain’t gay like you!

Me: Yeah, and you would know…that would make you the biggest queer in the room then. (Expert Counterattack that makes him the gay one instead)

Attacker: Screw you! (finally losing control)

Me: Sorry, not into dudes (Assumptive Counterattack)

Notice how the more he continued on attacking, the more he continued to shoot himself in the foot and became the victim of his own aggressive attacks. I was not necessarily attacking him. I was reflecting the attacks back on him.

Overall, let the attacker be/create/cause their own demise, without you being guilty.

So now you have some powerful social structures to deflect any verbal confrontation, so please drop the unoriginal lame “Screw you!” combat…you might have kids around listening.

These are my secret weapons, use them wisely.

Now that you’re verbally armed, that’s it for today’s lesson.

And remember…don’t go out intentionally looking for fights.

The ‘Game’ of Dating & Success with Women

I want to take a look into the subculture of ‘the game’. Yes, I know Neil Strauss and read his book but I’m talking primarily about the African-American subculture and their relational dynamics.

I’m also not talking about the rapper ‘The Game’ either.

A lot of power and energy is centered around the desire for sex, put quite bluntly. African-Americans are just more open about it than most ‘white’ people who are dealing with a lot more
personal repression.

Black dudes could teach white dudes all kinds of things about the game. The thing is though that it’s limited in a way. If you define yourself as a player, you become a social stereotype
unless you are the rare man who can transcend it and combine your skills with something greater.

The black dudes that are looking for ways to transcend it are the ones who are going to outscore major players when it comes to the ladies especially when they don’t have the bling and bucks just yet. That takes a lot of self-respect to admit you want to be even better than you are.

I’m not limited to any sub-culture or it’s rules. I broke through that a long time ago. I massively respect guys who don’t limit themselves to the confines of one subculture and
the attainment of higher status just to impress others.

Be yourself. Be greater than it all while still holding your roots. I represent many things within myself; not just one thing or city.

With the dynamics as they are, I think all men should take a look into things anyways because women are used to living the fantasy more than the reality. Porn is a fantasy. Sex itself
is reality.

Bridging the gap between the sexes is what I’m working on but it’s up to each to hold his own and frankly, too many players are just trying too hard.

Look at phrases such as ‘don’t hate the player, hate the game.’

‘The Game’ is taken as a social reality and the women take a major role in it.

How is it that women know when one man is a ‘player’? When they see him approach, then they’ll judge him on his skill level or ability of the ‘game’ and his level of congruency to it.

African-American’s widely consider ‘the game’ with women and sex just what it is; ‘the game’ (which can also refer to the social power game of status). Either you have ‘game’ or you don’t.

Those men that DO ‘have game’ are usually viewed with respect and have women on rotation for booty calls.

Those who don’t have game go through all kinds of psychological torment on themselves and around women. They put the pussy on a pedestal even more than they already do.

The entire concept of ‘the game’ as it’s indoctrinated within the African-American community is that it still clearly puts the woman as the sexual (read; social) ‘prize’.

Powerful independent African-American roles models such as Beyonce have influenced the behavior of women. The women are strong; I know from experience and observation. It’s a lot for
a man to deal with if he doesn’t know his relationship to her different types of power.

Of course there is a higher level of ‘game’ that is all socially based. Being a ‘baller’ or pro sports athlete will attract women to you. Owning a strip club, making big bucks and having pimped out cars will all attract women to you.

The highest social status men in the subculture are record producers, athletes and rap stars.

This to many is the ultimate status symbol; power and influence with a lot of social status. It’s a sign of ‘I made it. Look at me and where I came from.’ At that point, they can fulfill
their fantasies of having women all around them at the peak of ‘the game’.

Or is a lot of that really just the effective transmutation of all the sexual energy around you? Or is it really still a fantasy and women are just around you because of your social
status?

Either way, if you have your goals set, you can effectively use it to your advantage (sex). Ultimately women should appreciate you for you and not for your social status. Jay-Z quips about not knowing if women are with him for him or with him for his money.

Black men have a lot of personal authority and can harness it more effectively with the ladies if they were aware of certain things. I’ve seen strong men of personality and character but
when it comes to women, they’re dealing with a lot of issues that white guys are dealing with; putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Behavioral conditioning like that takes some real answers. Seeing a woman for something other than a sex object will allow you to end up at sex faster. It’s not that you’re being ‘whiter’ or anything, rather all women share the same biological characteristics.

Transcend the social game and it’s limitations and get women turned on by you for being your intensive self.

If you’re going to play the game for being in the game you may as well go ‘direct’ and just be straightforward with women about what your lifestyle is before they even have a chance to object.

That way they can join you or not.

If you’ve been basing success with women socially…let go of that.

Let social status take second place to a newly awakened ‘natural’ game. That way you’ll be succeeding even when you haven’t made it ‘big’ yet.

It almost takes putting away your pride to open up to a higher level of reality. The results are worth it that I’ve experienced.

It’s like being humble and realizing your mistakes so that you can accelerate your success.

The ultimate ladies man is ‘above the game’. He knows it’s not a game or a fantasy, instead it’s a lifestyle. He doesn’t appear as a player because he is so comfortable around women yet before they know it, they’re in bed with him because of his understanding of women and relational dynamics.

There’s no barrier for the woman to put up to reject him because he’s not putting her social sexploitation attributes on a pedestal; he sees right through it.

She can’t reject him if he’s just making a connection. She can’t tell where he’s coming from and all of a sudden she’s exchanged information with him and they are getting together and she’s excited about it.

There’s things to be learned in different ways. I’ve drawn influence and knowledge from all different subcultures to MY advantage. Keep an open mind to learning something from the best of the best outside your own subculture and take it to YOUR advantage.

We’re all in the process of learning and growing and I’ve had many African-American, African and Jamaican friends before. I’ve learned things from them and I’ll continue to.

Continue to evolve. I’ve been with women from dozens of countries including the U.S. and I love women. I’m ‘above the game’ because I don’t limit myself to being a social stereotype.

I’m the multi-cultural, invisible player in a way. There’s a lot of value out there and hopefully I can help some guys see things in a new light.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics.

Trick Or Treating – It’s All Fun And Games

People will tell you that life is not all about fun and games, but at times, this is not true. You see, when Halloween comes around, it is time for fun and games. This is the one time where kids can get together with their parents and go trick or treating. Trick or treating is when kids go from door to door saying “Trick or treat” and receive candy in their bags. There are so many fun things about this holiday – October 31, yet you cannot forget the safety rules.

First of all, when you are dressing up your child for Halloween night, it is important that you think about them being visible in the night. They make special things that you can put on your child that light up in the dark. This way, if you are walking down the road, people will know they are there. For another safety tip, if you have a toddler, you should make sure you hold their hands. You should never trust them to stay next to you, because within a blink of an eye, they can disappear.

Now that we have gone over the safety rules, it is time for the fun and games. Do you know what the best thing about Halloween, besides getting all that candy for free is? The best part would be the costume.

On Halloween, you can dress up as your inner being. This could be a mage, witch, warlock, vampire, clown, skeleton, your idol, the president or anything else you can think of. This is the one night where you can wear whatever you want, be whoever you want to be and do not have to worry about people making fun of you.

When it comes to choosing a Halloween costume, there are many different options to choose from. If you are trying to save money, then you should surf around the net and see what they have to offer.

Generally, online, you can find costumes at a discount price. Another way to get a cheap costume would be to look in thrift shops in your local area. Usually, people give last years costume to thrift shops for under five dollars.